Self-Doubt is a huge one. I truly believe all of these blocks (Fear, Self-Doubt and not seeing results) go hand-in-hand. Once you don’t see results, you'll start having self-doubt and then fear. It might not be in that order, but they are definitely intertwined.
There are many reasons why self-doubt creeps in. One of them is you’re outside of your comfort zone. And for some people, change is not comfortable. When you question your own ability and then stop moving forward because you don’t think you can do it…you’re self sabotaging.
1. How do you know you can’t do it until you actually try?
2. There will always be someone more qualify than you. But you are an unique individual and you possess experiences and personal traits others don’t have. It is the uniqueness that sets you apart. If everyone says I’m not as good as the other person then there will only be one dog walker, one marketing professional, one builder, one engineer. You get the idea.
3. Even if you tried and failed, it is not the end or an actual fail. The fail is redirecting you to a different direction. It is teaching you what you need to do next (or what not to do again).
Take the risk. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Thinking too much about your ability and wasting your energy thinking you can’t instead of trying to make it into a success will keep you from doing what you want. You’ll be so focus on the doubt and miss all the opportunities and solutions that is right in front of you.
One thing I ask my clients to do is to ask at least 3 people that you’ve worked with and describe you. And ask them to give you at least 3 descriptive words. Do the same with people you haven’t worked with (friends and family). You will be surprised the information that flows out of them. The amount of positives they’ll give you will warm your heart. The cynics will say ‘But they have to say nice things. They are not going to say bad things about you in your face.’. My answer is, they don’t have to say anything if they don’t feel like they have anything to contribute. They can simply ignore your request. Or say they’ll do it and ghost you. They can say the minimum like ‘you smell nice…’. So no, they don’t have to say nice things about you, they want to.
Once you get all the feedback, keep them somewhere easily accessible. Whenever you start doubting yourself, look at the list and know that you are capable to handle the unknown. We all need a little reminder of our abilities sometimes and this is a quick and easy way to get that boost.